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The PHx take on boredom

You’re Not Bored — You’re Boring. 

(A PHx Take on Boredom and the Art of Purposeful Nothingness)

I remember the first time I heard someone say, “You’re not bored — you’re boring.” I laughed out loud. Then I paused. Because, damn… it’s true.

Boredom isn’t a lack of things to do — it’s a mindset. We talk endlessly about positive mindsets: abundance, gratitude, growth. But what about the sneaky ones? The low-grade negative mindsets that creep into our everyday lives?

Boredom is one of them.

It’s a state of disconnection. A lack of presence. A void with no intention. And when you unpack it — it’s fascinating.

Imagine this: You’ve finished your tasks for the day. A rare pocket of time opens up. Now what? That empty space can either be a playground of possibility — for rest, creation, joy, learning… Or it becomes a black hole of “ugh.” (Enter Eeyore voice:) “Whatever will I do with all this time?”

That headspace — the one that can’t think of what to do, that can’t feel what it needs — That’s the space boredom lives in.

But here’s the truth: You’re not actually bored — you’re just not listening. Not to your creativity. Not to your soul. Not to the part of you that craves meaning over noise.

And in today’s world, it’s harder than ever to notice when we’re truly bored. Because we reach for distraction. We scroll. We watch. We click. We double-tap. We swipe. And we call that entertainment — but really, it’s just a digital pacifier.

The illusion is that we’re “doing something.” But by the time we stop, we’re more drained — more disconnected — than when we started. Still bored. Still tired. Still not tuned in.

So what if boredom isn’t the problem? What if boredom is actually an invitation?

An opportunity to choose. To listen inward. To create. To rest with intention. To be playful. Or purposeful. Or peaceful.

Even choosing to do nothing — intentionally — is meaningful. La dolce far niente — the Italian art of the sweet, deliberate nothing. That isn’t laziness. That’s luxury.

And let’s be honest: Sometimes we avoid boredom because we’re afraid of what we might discover in stillness. But that’s a convo for another day.

PHx Prompt: Your Anti-Boredom List

Next time you catch yourself saying, “I’m bored,” don’t reach for your phone. Reach for you. Create a list of things you’d actually enjoy doing — just for fun. Just for creativity. No pressure. No perfection. No productivity points needed.

Here’s mine to get you started: 

✧ Learn 2 new chords on the guitar 

✧ Write about literally anything 

✧ Learn to draw a hand 

✧ Research a dream travel spot 

✧ Do 10 minutes on Duolingo 

✧ Lie on the couch and stare at the ceiling like an old-school philosopher

Bonus tip: Decide — is this moment calling for creative mode… or soul-nourishing rest? Both are valid. Neither are boring.

Final PHx Truth Serum: Boredom isn’t a flaw — it’s a fork in the road. You can either escape… or explore.

Boredom craves purpose.The sweet spot is learning to do nothing on purpose — or do something from the heart. But whatever you do — Don’t be boring.

Your Turn ✨ Create your own “anti-boredom” list this week. Share one idea in the comments — or post it to IG and tag me @the_phx_co so we can inspire each other with creative, soulful ways to be instead of scroll. Because life is too short to forget how interesting you actually are.

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